'I'm not rearranging my entire life because she spent recklessly': Daughter refuses to be her mother's fallback retirement plan after the 58-year-old mom blows her savings on "treating herself"

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  • AITA for refusing to let my mom move into my guest room after she sold her house?
  • My mom (58F) recently sold her house and made a good chunk of money. Instead of downsizing or renting a small place, she
  • blew a lot of it on vacations and "treating herself." Now she's saying she needs a place to stay "temporarily" while she figures things out.
  • I (30F) live with my husband (31M) in a two- bedroom house. The second bedroom is my husband's office, he works from home full-time, and
  • moving him to the dining. room would be disruptive. My mom insists she'll "barely be around" and that we're selfish for refusing when "family is supposed to help family."
  • I told her point-blank: she had the means to set herself up, but chose not to. I'm not rearranging my entire life and marriage because she spent recklessly. Now she's crying to relatives that I'm "abandoning her."
  • AITA for not letting my mom move in?
  • Apprehensive-... NTA. She didn't "end up homeless," she chose poor financial decisions. You're not responsible for bailing her out at the expense of your marriage and your husband's job.
  • Calling ThatBS NTA You don't have space for her and why should your husband have to move his office to the dining room..
  • She decided that blowing her money like a teenager was what she wanted to do. Let someone else in the family take her in.
  • Freya1957 ⚫ NTA. There will be nothing temporary about it if she moves in. She will expect you and your husband to support her for the rest of her life.
  • mcmurr You told her exactly right. Family doesn't enable family is what you should have said. Figure out my foot. She moved in you would never be able to get rid of her. She can figure it out. Not your problem.
  • atTheRiver200. FYI you are your mother's retirement plan.

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